Lead, Lady


I was browsing through a friend's blog and saw the quote from the movie The Holiday:

Arthur Abbott: Iris, in the movies, we have leading ladies and we have the best friend. You, I can tell, are a leading lady, but for some reason, you're behaving like the best friend.

Shoot.

So, can somebody tell me how NOT to be the best friend? It gets tiring, y'know, all that moral support, cheer-up-chummy thing we "best friends" do. You all think it's easy? It takes selflessness and non-exclusive capacity to understand people to do all that foolishness. You think it doesn't put a weight on our shoulders? The weight of being a best friend is in the heart. You get emotionally tied down without the benefit of having... whatever benefits. Darn if I know. Because for some reason, Fate has chalked me down as a "best friend." And all my life all I know is how to be pleasant and agreeable and reliable. And all I can remember is the sound of my heart twisting everytime I realize, I am only the friend, yet again.

They say a woman shouldn't be so emotionally accessible. That makes you "BF" material. But they also say find somebody who will like you the way you are. My strength is Empathy. Cheerfulness. Reliability. Fairness. Last time I checked those were GOOD traits. Maybe not desirable traits for men, which goes to show how weird most of them are.

Yes, I am the Best Friend. But I am a quick study. Somebody teach me how to be the leading lady and I'll integrate the 2 and create a new breed. Just wait and see.

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